Transsexuals: do they really attract straight men ?  10/06/2025 by Rod Fleming

Transsexuals are people born male who are attracted from childhood to men, who then change their physical appearance to more closely resemble women. (This phenomenon occurs in females, in reverse, but that is not the subject here.) Transsexuals are naturally extremely feminine in appearance, comportment and other factors, as I have discussed elsewhere and for them, being masculine is difficult. They find life easier as women and the deciding factor in whether or not to transition is often ‘Will I pass convincingly as a woman’. People like this know that straight men are attracted to women, not to other men, and their desire is always to be the submissive sexual partner of such a man. Depending on the level of social intolerance they have to face, if they think they can be more successful as women than as men, they will follow that path.

Then, having transitioned, they do exactly what straight natal women do: make themselves as beautiful as possible in order to attract a man. Many succeed; others do not. One major step in the journey of a person like this is Genital Reconstruction Surgery, in which, in this case, the penis and scrotum are surgically modified and shaped into the facsimile of a vagina. This can have varying levels of success both in terms of function and aesthetic, but the work of the best surgeons today is remarkable. A man involved in a relationship with this person, once her surgery is complete, has no challenge to his heterosexuality. She appears to be a woman in every sense and she has a vagina. A man might meet, fall in love, marry and spend his life with a transsexual like this without ever knowing that she was actually male.

Many transsexuals do not have this surgery however, especially in Asia, and this presents an obvious conundrum: how does she have a relationship with a straight man when she has a penis between her legs?

Research
Research done by a team led by K Hsu at Northwestern under the tutelage of Dr J Michael Bailey, one of the foremost sex researchers today, has examined this in some detail. The method the team used, however, tested the level of arousal experienced by samples of men looking at different classes of pornography. This featured men, women and ‘shemales’, which is one porn industry term for transsexuals who have not undergone GRS. We’ll call them ‘pre-op transsexuals’.

lea THsu’s research is interesting, if only because it broadly confirms what observers like me already knew to be true: homosexual men are not sexually attracted to pre-op transsexuals. Of the men who were so, about half turned out to be ‘autogynephilic’, or attracted to themselves in the form of women. This is usually contracted to AGP. This is a paraphilia which, again, I have discussed many times.

(Please note that I use the term ‘transsexual’ here to mean a Blanchard HomoSexual TransSexual. Autogynephiles are not transsexual, they are men with a mental disorder. At best they might be called ‘pseudo-transsexual’. There is a wealth of anecdotal evidence that many such men will eventually become full-time crossdressers and present as women themselves, but they are not our subjects here. The definition of ‘straight’ that I am using specifically excludes autogynephilic men, irrespective of the stage of autogynephilia they are at.)

Further, the desire of AGP men in a relationship with a transsexual or pseudo-transsexual is usually to be penetrated. This immediately causes a problem with true MtF transsexuals who never, or at least very rarely, desire this, although they might do it for money or to please a demanding partner. Despite these drawbacks it does appear that a significant number of men pursuing relationships with transsexuals are themselves autogynephilic. Given that there is a known propensity for crossdressing AGP men and pseudo-transsexuals to seek out relationships with true transsexuals, that non-cross-dressing AGP men also do should surprise no-one.

What, then, of the other group described by Hsu, those men who were attracted to pre-op transsexuals but who were not themselves autogynephilic? Are they the fabled ‘straight man’ of every true transsexual’s dreams?

 

The choice for transsexuals

It is very difficult to avoid the conclusion that a pre-operative transsexual in a relationship with a straight man should seek GRS as soon as she can. That way she can give him the sexual experience he most craves. That might save their relationship, but there are serious risks: if he is not straight and has only be pretending to be so, then losing her penis almost certainly means losing him. He’s only interested in her for her cock, after all. Then again, even if he is really straight, once it’s gone, the girl is in competition with every other real woman out there; and her man’s love for her will indeed have to be an eternal flame for it to survive their assault on it. There is nothing that a real woman hates more than the idea of a straight man in a successful relationship with a transsexual; she sees it as simple trespass on her property and will do her level best to break it up.

Would you want to mutilate your body, permanently and irreversibly, to find all this out?

Alternatively, a pre-op transsexual might simply acquiesce while her partner goes to a female prostitute once a month or so. Far better a professional than a friend, since that might well turn into a real affair and itself threaten the relationship she seeks to preserve. It won’t be easy for her, because every woman seeks loyal monogamy; but in the long term, her demonstration of love for him, her self-sacrifice in providing for a need that he cannot deny and she cannot assuage, might bind him to her even more tightly.

Such a solution might avoid the surgeons’ knife, for a while at least, but the corrosion done to the transsexual’s soul, in being reminded again and again that she is unable to fully satisfy the man she has given her heart to, must be really heart-rending. What will she do in the hours that he is gone from her, slaking his need for vagina in the perfumed bed of a whore? What thoughts will pass through her mind, what tears will she cry; and what will she feel when she hears again the tread of his feet outside the door?

The life of a transsexual is never easy and I am amazed that so many remain such lovely, gentle people.